tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4967667322738830937.post1632746874020760901..comments2011-12-26T21:52:11.873-05:00Comments on Authentically Speaking: Losing A FriendRecovery Re-Runhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13585407421360114530noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4967667322738830937.post-37383045258962633722008-04-21T17:01:00.000-04:002008-04-21T17:01:00.000-04:00This is my first time to your blog, and Wow....I'm...This is my first time to your blog, and Wow....I'm so glad you got out when you did. It sounds like it was a very unhealthy and controlling relationship. You deserve someone who loves you for who you are, with all your weirdnesses, etc...<BR/><BR/>Are you familiar with blogger Kingdom Grace? She has an excellent series archived on her blog about spiritual abuse. It might be helpful for you. <BR/><BR/>www.kingdomgrace.wordpress.com<BR/><BR/>poke around her site for it and you'll find it.<BR/><BR/>welcome back to the free world. breathe in deep, and move on. there's a whole lot of freedom on the path ahead of you!Pam Hogeweidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12667139057131247825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4967667322738830937.post-30806400781536620962008-04-20T23:49:00.000-04:002008-04-20T23:49:00.000-04:00‘rudeness cloaked in religion’Your friend is corre...‘rudeness cloaked in religion’<BR/><BR/>Your friend is correct!<BR/><BR/>You are also correct! That was emotional and spiritual abuse! You nailed it!<BR/><BR/>I'm glad you escaped that. His reign would have gotton tighter as time went on.Hannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15165967476661656865noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4967667322738830937.post-60981946868228109142008-04-04T09:53:00.000-04:002008-04-04T09:53:00.000-04:00Dear Tara, I linked to your post through Tia Lynn...Dear Tara,<BR/><BR/> I linked to your post through Tia Lynns blog. I hope that that is OK. Just let me know. I just wanted to support your decision to not let your friend continue to abuse and belittle you. I was a single mom for many years and met a very nice christian man and we were even engaged. However, he began to belittle and question my convictions/personhood because I had had sex before marriage, and any other previous sin he could find. He felt extremely threatened if I did not 100% completely agree with him... much the same behaviour that you described. It is their own insecurity, fear, anger, and sorry to put it this way self absorbed self righteousness that fuels this type of behaviour. They can be good friends but make terrible mates. I have since met and married a man who loves me, loves who I am, loves the person I was when I was so desperate for love and affection I looked in wrong directions, loves me for being vulnerable, loves me for being strong. God loves us in all these ways and your spouse should only do the same! Well reading your story reminded me of my own experience and sometimes it can feel so lonely when someone you love judges and rejects you instead of loving and ecouraging you. Keep this healthy frame of mind and expect for yourself what you would want for your kids in terms of treatment by a spouse. Well hope it was ok to comment here?Ashley Dumashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05548130652024676622noreply@blogger.com